Turns Out My Village Is Bigger Than I Thought

I have to say… I’m a little taken aback.

After my recent posts about the unsupportive, uneducated, progressively asleep husband attached to my best friend, a surprising number of you reached out. Calls. Texts. Private messages. Not to gossip, but to check on me. To show concern. To offer love and support.

My heart is full.

That kind of response hasn’t always been present in my life, so when it shows up like that, it hits a little deeper. It reminds me that the loudest voices are rarely the most important ones. The quiet support behind the scenes is what really matters.

Over the years I’ve developed a particular life skill: the ability to move on.

Not ignore things. Not pretend they didn’t happen. But move through them without letting them unpack their bags and live in my head.

This situation definitely qualifies.

I sulked for a couple of days. I processed it. I probably stared dramatically out a window like I was in a 90’s music video. Then I moved forward.

Letting someone else’s ignorance about your literal DNA composition ruin your day, your week, or your peace is handing them power they don’t deserve.

I’m not doing that.

Negativity only grows if you keep feeding it. Protecting your peace means refusing to give energy to things you can’t control. It’s easier said than done sometimes, but it’s essential for mental wellness.

Will things be different now? Absolutely.

There’s a very real chance I may never physically see my best friend again unless her husband dies first. And while that’s a strange and sad reality, life has a funny way of working itself out.

I’ve got nothing but time.⏰

This whole situation really showed me something beautiful: the people who showed up. The people who care. The people who reached out simply to say, “Hey, I see you.”

That matters more than ignorance ever could.

You can’t control other people’s beliefs, fears, or limitations. What you can control is how much space they occupy in your world.

In mine? Very little.

I’ll keep my peace.

I’ll keep my humor.

And I’ll keep the people who showed up for me close.

And if the day gets heavy…

That’s what a perfectly rolled joint and a quiet evening with my dogs are for.

Xoxo, AB 💅💄💋